A divorce can be especially difficult for teenage children. These children have reached the age where they know what is going on. The change that results from a divorce can have a significant effect on teenagers. If you are going through a divorce and have teenage children, then here are 5 tips to help your teenage children cope.
1. Respect their wishes
Teenagers have minds of their own and many have no problem speaking their minds. So long as their wishes are reasonable and in their best interest, you should respect their wishes and refrain from questioning or demeaning. This can sometimes be difficult, especially if their wishes conflict with your own. A court will give significant weight to the child’s wishes, so keep this in mind.
2. Avoid talking to them about the divorce
You should refrain from talking about the divorce in the presence of your teenager. Even if the child seems disinterested, they know what is going on and may overhear your comments. Because it can be difficult for a teenager child to hear about the divorce, take precautions to shield them from it.
3. Do not coach or alienate
Some parents are tempting to try and coach their children to say certain things, or to discourage their children from spending time with the other parent. This can have devastating effects on the child, so avoid doing this. Be supportive or their relationship with the other parent and help accommodate that relationship.
4. Preserve the status quo
Divorce itself creates a significant change for children. To reduce the effect that the divorce has on your child, try to preserve the status quo as much as you can. Maintain routines, rules and traditions.
5. Be supportive
Recognize that the divorce is just as difficult on your child as it is for you. Help support your child and let them know that you love them.
If you are going through a divorce, contact a Brighton Beach divorce attorney. Brighton Beach divorce lawyers can provide advice and representation. Contact a Brooklyn divorce attorney from Levitsky Law Firm to learn more.